We’ve talked about breakups before on the show, but this week we’re having a discussion about ways we cope after breakups and coming up with some healthy tools based on research.

What the research says

Most of us have suffered heartbreak before, and it’s never fun. But there is some research on it that might allow us to be better equipped to handle it next time:

• The pain of heartbreak is real pain (and can be treated as such).

• It takes around 11 weeks to feel better after the loss of a romantic partner.

• There are strategies that can help, but some have drawbacks and should be used sparingly.

• While wallowing too much post-breakup can be harmful, taking some time to reflect on the relationship can speed the healing process.

Tools for your breakup toolbox

• Go slowly, take one thing at a time, and allow yourself to feel your emotions.

• Be active in creating your support network, especially if you’re non-monogamous.

• Talk with a therapist.

• Journal.

• Engage in rituals. While closure is a myth, the sense of completing something is helpful.