This week, we're joined by one of our research assistants, Dr. Keyanah Nurse, to talk about safe spaces in the context of relationships. During this episode, we go into detail about the history of safe spaces on college campuses and how they have been used for various social justice movements, as well as considerations for making intimate relationships safer.
Read MoreWe're so excited to be joined by author Alyssa Gonzalez for today's episode! She is the author of Non-monogamy and Neurodiversity, which was published in February 2023.
Alyssa is a biology Ph.D., professional speaker, and writer. Her fiction uses science-fiction and fantasy elements to explore social isolation, autism, gender, trauma, and the relationships between all these things. She writes at The Perfumed Void (the-orbit.net/alyssa), on the subjects of biology, history and her experiences as an autistic ex-Catholic Hispanic transgender immigrant to Canada. She has also written a book about polyamory from a neurodivergent perspective. She lives in Ottawa, Canada with a menagerie of pets.
Today, Alyssa discusses her writing process and journey with us, traits of neurodiversity that make non-monogamy easier and more difficult respectively, stigma and tropes around neurodivergence, and more!
Let's dive into another Q&A episode with some questions from our Patreon supporters! This week we're talking about rebuilding friendship with exes, discovering one's own boundaries, managing past relationship trauma, how to give advice about non-monogamy, and more.
If you'd like to submit a question of your own, consider becoming one of our Patreon supporters!
Martha Kauppi has rejoined us today to talk about coming out of the closet and how it relates in particular to the intersection of our professional and personal lives.
For those who are just meeting her, Martha is a therapist, author, speaker, and educator specializing in complex relational therapy, sex issues, and alternative family structures. She trains therapists all over the world to work more effectively with a broad range of sex issues, and with clients who are in open relationships. She is the author of the groundbreaking new book Polyamory: A Clinical Toolkit for Therapists (and Their Clients).
This week we're joined by a very special guest, Frank Arthur Smith, a queer writer/director/actor/producer originally from Boston, Massachusetts. His LGBTQIA+ comedy series, Open To It, in which he stars, writes, directs, and Executive Produces, was an Official Selection of festivals including: Outfest, where it received two special encore screenings; Rio LGBTQIA+ Film Festival, where it was the opening night film; Wicked Queer: Boston’s LGBTQIA+ Film Festival, where it won the Audience Award for Best Comedy Short; as well as the inaugural Gay Binge Film Festival, where it won the Special Jury Prize for Best Performance.
Today, Frank discusses normalizing non-monogamy, sex positivity, and the creation of his queer comedy web series, Open To It, which you can learn more about at www.opentoitseries.com.
Read MoreThis week we're joined by Rabbi Nikki DeBlosi, PhD. She is a queer, polyamorous, entrepreneurial rabbi who brings expertise in queer theory and belonging to Jewish teaching and ritual. She holds a BA in Women’s and Gender Studies from Harvard University, an MA and a PhD in Performance Studies from New York University, and an MA in Hebrew Language and Letters and rabbinic ordination from the Hebrew Union College - Jewish Institute of Religion.
Throughout this episode, Rabbi Nikki discusses polyamory in Judaism, her article published in The Reform Jewish Quarterly Fall 2022 “The Family Issue,” her own lifecycle and ritual work, religious texts from a Jewish perspective, and more!
This week, we're talking about annoyances and deal breakers in terms of relationships. We're exploring the possibility that in this age of online dating, maybe we've all become a little too picky about our potential partnerships, and that could be causing us to miss out on or prematurely cast aside some really wonderful connections! We'll be discussing deal breakers, perpetual problems, and the concept of "the price of admission."
Read MoreJoin us for another Q&A episode where we answer some listener questions and discuss post-breakup friendships, fading NRE, creative ways to satisfy touch needs in long-distance relationships, and more!
Read MoreWe as humans we love novelty, and when our relationships become complacent and repetitive, it can negatively affect them. However, we also crave stability and predictability in our lives and in our relationships, and feeling safe is important. It's because of this duality that we're looking at how rituals can be a benefit to your relationships, exploring some of the research, and discussing some ways that you can incorporate them into your life in a way that is the most beneficial to your relationship health and wellbeing.
Read MoreToday, we're talking about work, and how your relationship with work can affect your relationship with others, whether you have similar or different views on it. We're also going to be looking at some of the most recent research about workaholic behaviors, as well as how to talk to your partner when you're both having difficulty concerning each other's work habits or schedules.
Read MoreLove bombing has become a hot topic both in psychology and on social media these days, and so during this episode, we're exploring what love bombing is, what the research says about it, and if it's actually a helpful concept. What does it mean for the future of the relationship, for example? What does it feel like to be on the receiving end of it? We're going to discuss all of this, as well as some actionable steps to take if you've been love bombed by a loved one.
Read MoreWe're having our first Q&A episode in the new year with Dr. Zhana Vrangalova! During this episode, we learn a little about Dr. Zhana's work and answer some questions posed by our Patreon supporters.
Dr. Zhana Vrangalova is a relationship scientist, consultant, and NYU adjunct professor of human sexuality. She’s a world-renowned expert in nonmonogamy and the creator of Open Smarter™, an online course that guides couples and individuals to identify and navigate the relationship type best suited for their unique personality and life circumstances.
She holds a PhD in Developmental Psychology from Cornell University, and her scholarly work on nontraditional relationship styles has been published in several peer-reviewed journals.
Follow her on Instagram and Twitter @drzhana, and join her FREE Training on Open Relationships to discover your ideal relationship style.
Read MoreOne of the most searched relationship questions online is "Is it normal to have doubts about my relationship?" On today's episode, we're exploring that topic, asking is it normal? Why do we have doubts about our relationships? How can we tell the difference between doubts that stem from insecurities versus doubts that are a sign of more serious issues? We're going to discuss some research, and as always, some actionable tools to help when you're having these types of doubts.
Read MoreFor today's episode, we're joined by Damona Hoffman to talk about a variety of topics, including dating and modern dating culture, and she also answers some of our Patreon community's questions.
Damona is the Resident Love Expert of The Drew Barrymore Show and OkCupid's Official Dating Coach. Damona is the host of the long-running podcast Dates & Mates, which has just started airing its 10th Season. She is also an advice columnist for the LA Times and a writer on dating and relationships for the Washington Post. Damona can frequently be seen on Access Daily sharing the latest dating news.
We talk a lot about handling breakups in romantic relationships, but we haven't talked much about friendship breakups. In this episode, we're discussing some reasons why friendships end, research and statistics on friendship breakups, whether or not reconciliation is appropriate or possible, and of course, how to get through the difficult experience of you and a friend parting ways.
Read MoreGlen Olson and Terry Lee Brussels, authors of the book "Fifty Years of Polyamory in America: A Guided Tour of a Growing Movement," join us for a deep discussion about their book, the history of polyamory, influences from literature and the idea of a utopian society, and more.
Glen Olson is an author and historian of polyamory communities in America. He is a retired fire captain, paramedic, and technical writer. Over the years he has made presentations to colleges and science fiction conventions on the subject of open relationships and polyamory. Find more about Glen at glenolson.org.
Terry Lee Brussel-Rogers is an author and hypnotherapist, helping clients with everything from intimacy without jealousy to spiritual growth and poly relationship coaching. Terry co-founded Live the Dream, an education and support group for people interested in alternative lifestyles, cooperative living, open relationships and group marriage.
Kathy Labriola is back to discuss her most recent book with us, "Polyamorous Elders," some of the inspiration that drove her to write about aging in polyamory, cultural narratives that affect how we perceive polyamorous elders, and more.
Kathy Labriola is a nurse, counselor and hypnotherapist in private practice in Berkeley, California. Her mission is providing affordable mental health services to alternative communities. She has been a card-carrying bisexual and polyamorist for fifty years. She is a political activist and community organizer. As you can guess, she is extra crunchy and lives in a housing co-op, rides a bike, and raises chickens and organic vegetables. She is the author of four books on consensually nonmonogamous relationships: Love in Abundance, The Jealousy Workbook, The Polyamory Break-up Book, and Polyamorous Elders.
It's our 400th episode! Join us for a conversation where we talk about how Multiamory is produced, all the people, money, and costs involved, and how the show has grown and changed over the years. We also discuss some of the best parts about doing this podcast, some positive AND negative stories, and finally, we wrap up this monumental episode with some discussion about the future of Multiamory.
We want to thank all of our listeners and supporters so much for making this show possible and accessible. We could never have gotten this far without you all, and we look forward to many, many more years of Multiamory!
Author and professor Carrie Jenkins joins us this week to discuss her newest book, Sad Love: Romance and the Search for Meaning, and some of the principle themes in it. She goes into detail about questioning the relationship between happiness and love, eudaimonic love, "lovecrafting," and more.
Carrie Jenkins is an author and philosophy professor who lives and works on the unceded territories of the Squamish, Tsleil-Waututh, and Musqueam First Nations. Carrie’s first novel, Victoria Sees It, was published in 2021 by Penguin Random House Canada, and shortlisted for the Frye Academy Award XIII and the Ethel Wilson Fiction Prize. Her non-fiction books include What Love Is and What It Could Be (Basic Books, 2017) and Sad Love: Romance and the Search For Meaning (Polity, 2022).
Today's episode is guaranteed to spark strong opinions. We're discussing relationship anarchy: can it be practiced in monogamy or is it a contradiction of terms? We'll be looking at some of the core components of relationship anarchy and how they can be applied in order to improve our relationships and work against the various normative systems that cause so many to be hurt, disenfranchised, or disempowered.
For some more background and a deeper dive into relationship anarchy, check out Episode 150: Relationship Anarchy 101, and Episode 339: The Smorgasbord of Relationships.
